Togetherness needs to be porous. Love means learning to cope with and then find joy in the absence of the other. Give yourself a chance to feel lovelorn.
Someone I know travels a lot. Usually by train. He often leaves late for the railway station. We realize once again that we forgot to account for evening traffic and other urban hurdles when we planned his schedule. As I see him off, I almost always hope that he misses his train. One of these days, he just might.
I must remember not to look too gleeful when that happens. I don’t want him to think I’m immature or anything. Or in love with him. No, that must be avoided.
When Afzal, my husband, is away on his frequent travels, …
Natasha is a writer, filmmaker and communications coach. She is the author of the popular memoirs My Daughters’ Mum and Immortal for a Moment. Her columns have appeared in publications such as Mint Lounge, The Hindu, Outlook, The Globe and Mail, The Indian Express, the Hindustan Times and Quint.
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